Self Comparison on Social Media
The next time you’re on social media ask
yourself- why the fuck am I comparing my life, measure of success, number of followers, beauty, body, or relationship status to someone else or many other people on the internet based off their highlight real? Why the fuck am I only posting content that I think will please others or portray me in an ideal light? Why the fuck am I pretending to be happy by filling my feed with staged moments that I’m hoping will somehow complete me as a person someday? I, Nirah, do not suffer from such things on social media, but I know for a fact that most users do. At one stage in my life I realised that I was comparing my reality to a surreal fantasy realm of strangers, and that’s when I realised how important it is to use social media in a conscious, intent-ful way. Social media is not the problem, it’s actually the way you’re using it that is having a negative affect on your mental health. I don’t ever feel the urge to go on social media and get sucked into the routine of mindlessly scrolling on the home page anymore. I don’t ever compare my life or my body to anyone off or on social media, because I am whole within my experience, content in being my authentic self, and I love my body just the way it is. I do not ever post for validation or likes. I only follow a small amount of accounts and I rarely stalk people’s profiles. If your insecurities are popping up almost every time you go onto these apps, then it’s time to have a look at how you’ve been using social media and change it into a positive experience for yourself by finding clear reasons to why you are using it in the first place. I’ve had a love, hate relationship with social media, but that inner conflict is over now, because I don’t let it rule my life or let the unsaid rules of this space control what I decide to share online. I use it on my own terms and post a real reflection of my individual inner growth. Self comparison is an unhealthy use of one’s time. You cannot blame influencers or the app itself for your addiction to your screen or comparison to others. It all comes down to your own choices and level of security within yourself. The end of poisoned perfectionism starts with you. ***NOTE: Sure, it’s designed to hook you in, but it’s your responsibility to approach Instagram, Facebook, YouTube, ect... from a higher perspective that doesn’t suck you into escapism or remove you from living true to yourself.